Change: Endings and New Beginnings…
On this date, December 17, a number of years ago, I left my old life and ventured into the unknown. It was very difficult for me. I was being urged by my soul, and still the fear was almost unbearable. I was unhappy and alone for months after that important move, and gradually I re-created my life to eventually lead me to the now that I am living much more authentically and happily than before.
Today is the perfect day to launch a new phase in my new life, and that is what I will share with you below, but it is also a celebration of the ending of life for a friend who died last weekend. Jack was always authentic to me. He told me what made him happy, what made him mad. He shared his thoughts and his passions. He didn’t just talk about what made him smile – he lived his life fully, and died being his full active self… he was only 56. We will miss him and I’ll take my flute to his memorial because he so loved when we played music at night around the campfire.
Whenever there is change something is let go of as something new is chosen. This crossroads of leaving the comfort of the past and moving into the unknown of the future is often unnerving. Sometimes it takes us humans a bit of time to shift gears, but we are resilient critters and we soon are able to look at the benefits of the decisions we have made for ourselves.
It is my opinion that the scariest kind of change is the change that is un-planned and sudden. Like the sudden death of a loved one. If we can consciously change, then the unknown holds less fear for us.
On that note I’d like to share that it is time to launch some changes in the programs that I am offering to you. I have let go of the slower-paced series and replaced them with shorter more intensive programs for targeted audiences who want advanced-level deep shifts to happen in their lives and practices.
• Advanced Living and Loving: is a three-month program that speaks to a wide audience of those who wish to REALLY transform their lives for the better using wholistic energy therapy tools including EFT. It is starting in January 2010 and enrollment is determined via interview/coaching session. The techniques covered in this program will go way beyond traditional EFT and MTT tools, and will guide you to identify and balance your deepest values, clear self-sabotaging patterns, vision and create that life you most desire.
• Going Deeper with Your Clients: is a highly specialized three-month program just for coaches, therapists, and wellness practitioners of all kinds. It is starting in early February, 2010, and enrollment is done via interview. This program offers support and new tools so that every coach, therapist, wellness practitioner will be able to go deeper with their clients to clear blockages, pain, emotional discomfort. I will provide the “secret tools” for participants to excel beyond past levels in their practices.
Today I am also launching an affiliate program for The Ariela Group of Wholistic Services, where my friends, colleagues, readers like you, can benefit from helping me to share information about these new programs. The affiliate link can be found at the bottom of each web page.
Some people may believe that after almost thirty years of training, coaching, working with clients, that all of this would be second nature to me. But change of any kind takes some getting used to. In preparing the high calibre programs that I am sharing above I have walked through the layers of my own fears, and now am ready to share strategies that absolutely will support conscious change… I know, because I had to test them on myself first. And, this all started on December 17th so many years ago.
Conscious Balance in Business with Spirit!
When I focus on transformation and conscious living I can look back at my own career. When I was in my 20’s with a fresh new MS degree, working toward my Ph.D., I was hired by a consortium of twenty-four corporations and colleges/universities to create an international training institute where I reported to the CEO’s and college presidents and stayed within a set budget. That was a major undertaking for a young person like me.
Under pressure to create everything from scratch, I wore many different hats, and I didn’t wear them all very well or with conscious balance. At that time I built my “empire” where I hired and managed seventeen employees, most older than I, and I created all of the systems for the institute: marketing & PR, curriculum, faculty & staff, student affairs, etc. Recruiting was also my job, and the institute depended on my abilities to communicate to international embassies and agencies and create trust so that they would send their vulnerable students to me to train, nurture, and protect.
Some of the tasks set before me created great stress in my life, and others were more fun. I worked hard and managed with a strong hand. I yearned for more inner peace and balance, and I earned lots of money. I enjoyed my personal relations with some of the students and staff, however there was often a separation in me between my head and heart. I have learned through the years to re-connect these parts of myself so that I can live and work more consciously and take more Spirit into business.
Today I enjoy my peaceful life and I have great passion for supporting my coaching and energy therapy clients with open heart energy and a myriad of tools that I share. At the same time I am happy to hire the younger people who have more fire and passion for marketing to help me in this area. My intention is to create an even balance that will support a conscious business with Spirit, and show the greatest results.
On this note, I am currently looking for a savvy experienced VA team of like-minded “whiz kids”, who will put fire into my business marketing so that I can get the word out about my wonderful coaching and energy therapy services. This will allow me to put all of my energy into my work with clients – where I am now most comfortable and most consciously in balance in my life! If you know of a good candidate VA firm, please feel free to send me the referral. I know exactly what I want and am looking forward to taking my conscious business to its next level with the help of the “right” team around me! I can be contacted at: http://www.arielagroup.com/contact .
Doing Business as UN-usual…
What happened to the days of strong personal connections, friendly support, genuine customer service, quality, dependable follow-through, loyalty in customers and vendors? Have outside economic pressures caused greed and fear to take over, or have the symptoms above created the current economic situation?
I am lucky… or, you can say that I “created” a comfortable life and business situation for myself. I live in a gorgeous area of the planet, in the forest close to several small towns but within two hours of four major metropolitan areas. I have peace and beauty all around me that I can share with my clients and vendors. When I do my local errands I rarely encounter traffic, road rage, or the negative emotions and stress found elsewhere. I intended this in my life, and here I am living it now! Peace of mind and comfort is so important to me now!
What bothers me at this point are some of the wonderful people I am watching who are changing in ways that are placing stress on our working relationship and their relationships with others. There are many creative and talented people offering important products and services to others. As we all evolve and improve our products and services are we keeping the human-to-human aspect in sight? Or, are we focused on the time, money, final business results, and packing as many clients into a short time period as possible?
There seems to be so much pressure to succeed monetarily, grow marketing lists, and compete, that some providers are literally dropping their loyal customers or vendors and opting for the “bigger fish” who can bring them more revenue in a shorter period of time, for less work. I’m all for “working smarter – not harder”, and, at the same time I also endorse balance and the concept of living consciously.
Many of the systems being touted in our banking industry and on internet are “artificial”. Money on paper is not the same as money in one’s pocket. “Friends” and “followers” on social networking sites may not be there for you when you really need a caring human nearby. Numbers on a marketing list are not equal to loyal customers. E-mail marketing blasts do not include the same energy as intentional human-to-human marketing connections. Things have changed, and sometimes I’m not so sure they have changed for the better!
Creating from Within
Energy management is so important to each of us as we go about creating the life of our desires and flowing with the Law of Attraction. I was recently reminded again of the old tale that follows. The message says it all!
One evening an old Cherokee Indian told his grandson about a battle that was going on inside himself.
He said, “My boy, the fight is between two wolves.”
That got the boy’s attention.
“One is evil,” the old man continued. “Full of anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, and ego.”
“What of the other wolf, grandfather?” the boy asked.
“The other is good,” he said. “Full of joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth and compassion.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Do we all have such wolves fighting inside us, grandfather?”
“Yes,” the wise old man said.
“Does one of the wolves win the fight?”
“Yes,” replied his grandfather.
“Which one?”
The old Cherokee replied simply, “The one you feed.”
Skills for Conscious Success in the 21st Century
“Among those skills considered by many to be most essential for success in the twenty-first century are greater cognitive flexibility, comfort with unfamiliarity, appreciation for diverse perspectives, agility in the face of rapidly changing circumstances, an ability to hold multiple points of view simultaneously, and a capacity for discernment that relies equally on intellect and intuition.”
Wow – that sentence says so much! I tend to agree with each aspect that Liz Miller points out. It seems that the most flexible, changeable, open-minded, conscious, and discerning people are those who are riding the wave of new development, prosperity, new thought. And, it also seems that these are the individuals who are feeling most comfortable and at peace in today’s hectic world.
The above quoted statement was taken from an article by Liz Miller (program coordinator for the Worldview Literacy Project) featured in The Noetic Post – A Bulletin from the Institute of Noetic Sciences, Fall/Winter 2009-10, Vol.1:#1, pg.4.
To read more on this topic you may be interested in catching my upcoming article in Conscious Living, the e-zine of The Ariela Group of Wholistic Services: http://consciouslivingezine.com .
Reiki for Emotional Healing During the Holidays
You usually see me talking about using EFT or other Meridian Tapping Techniques for emotional healing. Since I am a Reiki Master in addition to the other things that I do, I want to include a few excerpts here from a good article by Laurelle Shanti Gaia (see her Reiki newsletter and the entire article at: http://www.reikinewsletter.com/.)
“It doesn’t matter which holidays you observe, or even if you don’t observe the holidays at all. This season can stir your deepest emotions. Thoughts, feelings and beliefs that you have long since buried often rise to the surface of your consciousness during holiday times. The good news is opportunities for profound and meaningful healing arise as well.
Do you find this time to be jolly, OR is it a time that you feel fear, loneliness, sadness, anger, abandonment, or whatever emotion is most important for you to become aware of at this time of year? Be true to your feelings, as this is a time that brings forth great potential for transformation and rebirth.
There is an ancient Shinto saying about the winter time ‘Both Heaven and Earth come from one’s own heart’. It is a time for darkness to open to the light, a time to really FEEL that which you have held in the shadows, tried to avoid, or been afraid to confront. It is a time to bring these feelings forth, acknowledge them, accept them, honor them, learn from them and move forward into the light of your true self. It is only possible to BE one’s true self by BEing true to yourself. Once you have done this, you can fully experience the joy, peace, love, compassion, good will and comfort that the holiday season is meant to bring you.
If your holidays include gathering with friends and family you may find yourself more sensitive than normal as cellular emotional memories begin to stir. I believe that the holiday time arouses whatever you most need to heal within the deepest level of your being. This is a perfect time to work with Reiki to awaken repressed emotions, honor them and transform them into positive energy.
Many of us were trained to hold our feelings in. ‘Nice girls don’t get angry,’… ‘big boys don’t cry,’… there were so many ways we learned to block our emotions. If you weren’t taught by your parents to do this, perhaps a teacher, or a friend influenced your tendency to repress your feelings.
Over the years of being disloyal to emotions, we each develop congestion in our emotional body that limits the flow of life force into our physical body. Consequently we can develop physical, mental or emotional illness.”
So, if you use Reiki on yourself, or if you regularly visit a practitioner, use the thoughts here as a good focus point as you approach a Reiki energy session, and set the intention to neutralize the negative charge around old holiday emotions and memories, and to allow peace to enter and fill up your energy field.
If you have specific questions about how to best do this, please feel free to ask me or leave a comment here. Also, of course, the thoughts expressed here so well by Laurelle can bring up specifics that you may clear using other energy tools such as EFT and NET, among other MTT tools.
I hope your Thanksgiving was wonderful! Mine was so fantastic that we had three different Thanksgiving dinners during the long weekend… with different family members each time as we traveled! And, our visits were fun and travel was safe! Wow – I am grateful that my energy work has sure paid off well!!
Another Rainy Day in Georgia…
This has been a wonderful summer and fall here in the beautiful mountains of north Georgia. We had suffered several years of drought and this year of abundant rain has benefited the crops, forests, springs, and our well-being in general.
Have you ever noticed how stressful it feels in nature during a drought? And, when it finally rains the deep sense of relief that permeates everything?
Rain is a wonderful cleansing agent, attitude adjuster, and nurturing blessing even though it does interfere with plans for boating, picnicing, camping, and other outdoor events. I’ve enjoyed my walks in the rain this summer… and we went camping several times with others and enjoyed the sound of rain on our vans and tents during the night. Yes, there was more to the preparation and clean-up, but generally it was still fun.
I am grateful for the beautiful rain that we have received so far this year!
Procrastination has Many Faces
Yesterday was TAPshop Tuesday, and our session was a good one focusing on the many aspects of procrastination.
As I introduced the topic and started going over the many aspects the discussion took an interesting turn.
One participant said that he had a major problem clarifying what he wanted, so, in turn put off doing anything because he had no sense of direction.
Another member shared that her brother was on a life-long search for the “perfect” partner, so at age 70 he was still a bachelor, and she sensed that in setting his standards so high he was actually protecting himself from committing to a relationship.
At this point we discussed how lack of clarity or insisting on perfectionism might both be related to a reluctance or inability to commit, with a surface symptom of procrastination. The real issue to clear here might be that of an inability to commit, and in doing that the procrastination might disappear.
We also included a detailed analysis of Law of Attraction at this point in the call, and discussed how imperative it is to hold the feeling of what we want to accomplish, even when we do not have the specific details yet.
I believe that usually when a client presents to me saying he or she has an issue with procrastination, that this is merely the symptom and that there is usually a deeper underlying cause for putting off the decision or action in question. When we clear the blockage around the underlying issue then the resistance to take action usually disappears also and the person is able to flow forward with intentional movement.
Some underlying issues of procrastination, in addition to those mentioned before include:
- fear / fear of the unknown / fear of success / fear of failure
- perfectionism / want to do it right / need ALL of the info before starting
- just don’t WANT to do it / not aligned with the action or decision
- might get into trouble
- too much to do / overwhelm / burnout
- shifting priorities / confusion / paralysis analysis
- etc.
In your own life you may wish to identify where you tend to procrastinate, and then look deeper to see if you can discover an underlying issue creating that symptom. Is there a deeper reason that causes you to hold back on making a decision or taking an action? Sometimes this is rather obvious, while at other times it takes some insight, thought, or even an outside support person to help you to identify what the deeper issues might be. Good luck in your own investigation!
On our next TAPshop call we will continue to discuss procrastination and will hold an EFT tapping session around clearing the root causes of each participant’s procrastination issues. This will occur on October 6th, so there is still time to sign up and receive yesterday’s recording in preparation for the second procrastination call. Go to: http://www.EFT-TAPshops.com . Hope to hear you there!
Supporting Health & Well-being
I traveled through India with four other Americans for over a month in 1998. I was the only person who didn’t get sick. They thought I was lucky. I feel that there were several reasons that I didn’t succumb to major intestinal distresses. These include:
- I daily massaged certain neuro-lymphatic points to help my body’s lymph system drain any and all toxins that I ingested.
- I had built up a natural resistance to various intestinal bacteria after drinking from a natural well at my home that probably had more bacteria than the average city drinking water that the others used.
- I was ingesting a natural mineral complex that supported my immune system so that I did not suffer respiratory issues from the air pollution, and it probably supported my intestinal fortitude also.
- I performed daily energy processes on myself to clear issues, emotions, old baggage inside of me. My reward in this area was some very illuminating experiences while I traveled throughout north central India, and the creation of a new life when I returned home.
Do I believe in supporting my own health and well-being? You bet! Whether I am using conventional and practical prevention methods or alternative holistic techniques to keep myself well, I feel that it is well worth the time and energy that I have put into learning how to do it. And, I highly endorse this to others. The healthy pay-back is definitely worthwhile!
Discovering Subtle Underlying Issues
Many years ago while I was married I used to have a re-occurring nightmare. It was always about my husband flaunting other women in front of me. I knew this was really not about my dear husband because he was a very faithful and loyal partner, but it baffled me as I continued having these nasty dreams. Finally one day I proclaimed that I wanted to know what the dreams were about and who that person really was. That night I had another bad dream, and this time the guy turned around. I was amazed to see that the deceiving perpetrator was actually a man I had dated in graduate school who really did deceive me. I had forgotten about how devastated I was so many years before, and now it had come back up to be healed.
Years later I was divorced and went through a very difficult time in my life where I missed my old life and also suffered from a failed love affair. I used many energy tools on myself, worked with coaches and a therapist to get me through the pain I was feeling in this “dark night of the soul”. After awhile I felt better and believed that I had cleared all of the old residue around my trauma. I moved forward with creating a new, happier life. I attracted a wonderful and loving partner.
Recently I’ve been doing lots of energy tapping as I facilitate EFT TAPshops and other one-on-one sessions with my clients. I enjoy this because as I help others to clear their issues I am actually getting benefits myself.
It amazed me recently when an aspect of the old hurt of abandonment and loss came up to be cleared. When this happened I went back to the more recent major event to see if it was the source of the emotion I was feeling. That was clear, but to my surprise the original old issue from graduate school showed up. And, at this point I realized that in all of my clearing during the “dark night of my soul” I had neglected to go back and clear the earlier trauma from the man who had deceived me earlier. At this point I went back through my life and thought of all occurrences where I had felt abandoned, deceived, led on, cheated on, etc.
I’m still surprised that I had totally forgotten the most traumatic event of my earlier life when the later trauma occurred. And now I understand that once a certain vibration is in one’s frequency field it can stay there and attract more of that, ending in increased trauma each time until the issue is cleared. Now I specifically search for the very subtle and under-lying issues that – even though they may not seem related – sometimes hide and cause major blockages in moving forward in everyday life.
For more on this subject I invite you to join us today on our EFT TAPshop call at 4:00 p.m. EDT. Go to http://www.eft-tapshops.com to register now!
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