Letting go of the Old to Make Room for the New
After thirty years I sold a bicycle that I bought as an undergraduate in college. That bike had been my freedom, my mode of transportation, my vehicle away from the pressures of my studies, and my way to fly through the air at great speeds. It had been stolen once and I had flipped over the handlebars at least twice into traffic. I loved that bike.
But, after not using it for several years it was not doing me any good, and the disuse was hard on the tires and brakes. I posted it for sale and got a prospective buyer who was coming to see it. I decided to take the bike out for a last spin around the neighborhood. Oh my. The memories, the speed, the wind in my face, the feeling of freedom. Did I really wish to give up this wonderful flying machine? Well, yes. It was dangerous. The brakes didn’t work well and I wasn’t quite as limber as when I used to ride it everywhere on that big campus. I supposed that the young man who was buying it would fix it up and enjoy it. I let it go.
That day it really impacted me what a strong hold an item like that had on me. It was full of thirty years of happy, sad, frustrated, tired, confused, inspired, feelings and memories. As I let it go I felt that I was letting go of a great load of emotions with it. I was glad that I sold it and soon found a newer bike that would serve me.
Yesterday I sold my favorite car. It was a top of the line cadillac – my old executive car. It had memories, status, great meaning to me. It was in very good condition and the only reason I let it go was that I just bought a car from my father with less mileage. My car was prettier, cleaner, easier to drive, faster, more deluxe. My new vehicle is four-wheel drive, which I need in the mountains, and will serve me well with its low mileage and good maintenance record. I’m liking it more and more each day.
That didn’t make it any easier to let go of that car of my dreams, however. It took awhile of talking to myself and to the car, and then we manifested just the right buyer. The younger woman who bought it will be very happy with it, and my car will serve her well. She will feel good driving that luxury vehicle, and it will keep her and her family safe. This time I prepared and was glad to let go of my sweet car and allow it to take care of this new family. And still, I did feel a few pangs of nostalgia in letting it go.
I know one thing. Every time I let go of something a vacuum is created and something better comes to me in its place. And, in letting go of the older vehicle – full of memories of who I used to be, Director of Training & Development, consultant, trainer, chamber of commerce president, economic development commission chair, etc., now I can be more of who I am now – without looking back or replaying the old stories. This feels good. I can be in better alignment now. I am grateful!
Using EFT & Energy Therapy Tools to De-brief My Mate After Accident Trauma
All of you who know me well realize my passion for the Energy Psychology work that I am doing with clients now. I utilized it last night with my sweetie, Martin.
He regularly attends a local car auction – it’s his hobby. Last night a tragedy happened where a car went out of control and mowed down 20-30 people as it crashed through a building where they were standing. Luckily Martin was out of harm’s way – just 15-20 feet away, watching the whole thing happen.
As a retired EMT he realized that the extent of injuries & numbers of injured were way beyond his ability to support these people, and he had no emergency kit with him, so he used his skills to direct traffic and to show emergency vehicles where to park. The first responders needed to keep their vehicles out of the way of the many ambulances who followed, so he managed to direct the flow of everyone coming and going for almost two hours, including helping the ambulances come and go between the helicopter runs taking wounded to the hospital. He was still high on adrenaline when he returned home late last night.
As I helped him to de-brief I simply let him tell me about it. He doesn’t usually get too involved in the energy therapy work that I do – he’s a strong he-man. We sat at the dining room table and as he talked I touched his foot or leg with my foot or leg under the table. He couldn’t see that I was tapping my karate chop point (side of my hand) as he spoke. I was acting as a surrogate to support his energy clearing as well as keeping my own sensitivities from picking up the trauma in my own electro-magnetic field.
He shared with me that after seventeen years working fire and mountain rescue as an EMT, this was the worst trauma he had personally experienced. He had a number of different emotions ignited when he got home, and needed to talk it out before eating dinner or relaxing in any way. He had felt helpless, guilty for not doing more, agitated at a few self-important emergency responders who wanted to park right in the middle of the entrance way where ambulances needed to pass, traumatized by seeing so many people mowed down by the run-away car, among other feelings. By talking them out he felt better. My tapping helped the process, and his dream state also supported his subconscious to let go of some of the inner emotional stress, as during the night Martin woke up several times with his heart racing as his subconscious was working out the trauma that he had witnessed.
This morning I reminded him of the 3rd eye point that he can tap if the pictures of the trauma become too bothersome, and also told him to use the karate chop point if he found his heart racing and felt stressed. (The 3rd eye point is not included in EFT, and the karate chop is an important point used to set-up most EFT protocol sequences.)
Now Martin has the tools to help his system to let go of what he witnessed, and since it is not beneficial for him to carry any of that emotion around with him, I expect that he will use them!
I am so Grateful that I could serve!
Yesterday I met a milestone goal that I had set - to serve at least one hundred people with complimentary one-on-one coaching and energy therapy sessions.
I met that goal yesterday and was happy to have been able to share my abilities and tools with so many people – without charging or asking for their business! This is a way I’ve always tithed back to my community and to the Universe for all of my blessings, and I am grateful that I could do it!
Because energy therapy tools like EFT, NET, applied kinesiology, and distance Reiki are so powerful, it often takes only one session to clear a major life-long emotional block that had previously caused chronic illness, physical pain, self-sabotage, failed relationships, blocked financial income, cycles of “bad luck”, among so many other life symptoms. It is always a gift for me when people report back later that our session literally changed their life. I am grateful for the good news!
So, today, in celebration, I’m going to take some time out of my busy day and go for a walk in the woods while it is still lightly snowing. It is so beautiful here and I am grateful that I am rewarded for my good work by being able to live in such a wonderful part of the planet. We’re not in the big blizzard of the NE USA… just the bottom edge, and it is fun having the beauty of the snow without the hassle that others are having right now elsewhere. This is another reason that I am grateful!
So, think of me out walking in nature, thinking about the many people who trusted me to help them when they needed it! I am so grateful that I could serve them!
Use EFT to Clear Emotional Molehills Before they Become Mountains
Often my coaching clients mention that they forget to use their Energy Therapy and EFT tools on their own to clear emotions when they come up, and then are frustrated later that they could have cleared an issue before it grew into a bigger obstacle.
Remember the old phrase “making a mountain out of a molehill”?
When you have a fear or doubt or pang of overwhelm or anger, there is no better time than right then in the present to tap away the feeling. If you pass over the feeling, expecting that it will go away on its own, then you are incorrect in your presumption.
Whenever you feel an emotion there is a chemical reaction that is set off in your body. The reaction creates energy that is stored in your organs and meridian system. This emotion will stay stored where it is until something allows it to be cleared. And, it can be added onto by similar emotional experiences that add more to the charge that is already located in your body’s electromagnetic field. (Creating the mountain out of what started out as a small molehill.)
If there is already a charge of a certain kind, then it will attract similar charge. In my studies of kinesiology and NET I learned that specific organs hold specific emotions, and that the way to most completely clear these emotions and their charge is to stimulate the meridian attached to that organ and intentionally clear it from that meridian and organ.
So, if you are driving down the road and approach a scary intersection like I did today on the way to my office, the best thing to do is to tap away all fear that is in you about that intersection – right then. This morning I did this. As I did it I realized that I had accepted some fears and suggested behaviors from my mate about his reaction to the intersection. This morning it occurred to me that most of the fear I had taken on was his rather than my own. I am always careful on blind hills when I pull out onto a country mountain road, and I don’t know the history of the many accidents that may or may not have happened there. So, my question to myself this morning was: “Do I really want to carry this fear with me anymore?” I answered “No!”, so I did one quick round of tapping and let it go.
I created an EFT set-up statement of: Even though I feel fear when I pull out onto this road with it’s blind hill, I deeply & completely accept myself and trust my driving and choose to clear this fear.
Then I followed by tapping all of the points using some the following statements as I felt the fear:
- This fear of pulling out on this road
- This fear of pulling out on blind hills
- This fear based on Martin’s comments to me about this intersection
- This fear about pulling out at the wrong time
- This fear of other drivers coming over the blind hill
- This fear of what might be coming
- This fear that I might hurt my wonderful new vehicle
- This fear that I might do something stupid and careless
- Etc.
I felt totally at peace and cleared of the old fear a few minutes later. I will be interested in going through that intersection again in a few days to ensure that all of the charge is gone.
So, before any of your emotional molehills become mountains, I highly advise that you use your wonderful tapping tools to clear the emotional issues. And, if you don’t know how, you can learn by downloading a free Introduction to EFT from my website at: http://www.arielagroup.com/products/free_products.html.