Authenticity
Years ago I lived a life that wasn’t authentic. I was married, owned a 7300 square foot home full of art and antiques on two acres surrounded by horses, earned six figures as the only woman Director of a world-known multi-national conglomerate, was still working with my own retainer clients on the side, served on seven boards and commissions, wrote my own weekly business newspaper column, traveled regularly, wore all designer clothes, and regularly attended major conferences as keynote speaker. I wasn’t happy in this life even though everyone else thought that my husband and I were the perfect couple and that we had it all!
In my heart I realized that my marriage was based on co-dependence, my outer life was built on other people’s expectations, my business was driven by status and money, and I yearned to be free. I thought I was destined to live a life without passion – then I woke up.
The transition was very difficult for me. I designed it on a soul level and stumbled through it in 3D. It took me over five years to pull myself back out of the dark pit of my Dark Night of the Soul. I did it on my own – calling in helpers here and there – orchestrating my return and the creation of my new life on my own. Because of what I learned on that difficult journey I now reach out to help those who are either facing major life change that may end in trauma and turmoil, or those who already find themselves in the Dark Night of the Soul and need help getting out. My passion is to help others move through their life transitions without as much pain as I experienced, and in a shorter period of time.
Authenticity is a major part of living life well. When I met Martin he said that the only “rule” in our relationship was that we each be authentically ourselves. I continue to discover what that really means for me, and I am liking it more and more each day!
I invite you to explore authenticity and anything that may be blocking your way to that. Today in our EFT TAPshop we will focus on clearing out barriers to being authentic! You can join the international group by going to: http://arielagroup.com/pages/tapshopreg0309.html.
Letting Go of Old Energy with EFT – Things!
Yesterday in our weekly EFT TAPshop session we discussed using Emotional Freedom Technique to let go of the energy around old stories that no longer serve us. A related issue is that of letting go of things that are no longer relevant to your life.
It is spring in our half of the planet, and spring cleaning often includes cleaning and clearing out. Here are some ways that you can re-direct the flow of energy around things that no longer serve you.
1. Donate - Clothing, books, magazines, cookbooks, decorations, even house plants are candidates for this category. One person’s cast-outs can easily become another’s treasures. Just identify a friend, family member, thrift shop, charity, or other organization that will help you to let go so that an item can be enjoyed by others. You can even google for an organization near you who will appreciate whatever you donate.
2. Recycle - There are many items that you can recycle by using them again, using them for another creative application, or taking to a recycle center for them to re-use. When I remodeled my home last year I surprised my carpenters by my wish to recycle old doors and windows, etc. One flat door now serves as my office desk. A couple of outer doors plus my original stove and refrigerator were recyled into an investment house that I bought and flipped last year. I love using everything!!
3. Trade Treasures - Regularly my girlfriends and I gather for occasions and we usually include a fun give-away opportunity where we bring clothes, jewelry, household items, etc., to trade with one another. Just yesterday I ran into a friend who showed me that she was carrying a purse that she had gotten from me during a give-away. I had received it as a give-away from my Mother-out-of-law.
4. Release Old Energy - Check files in your office, contact lists, computer e-mails, notes on your bulletin boards, etc., and clear out old resources, emails, information, ideas that no longer serve the person you are today. This relates to yesterday’s TAPshop session where we focused on removing the old energy tied to plans that fell through, goals that lost steam, or dreams that fizzled out. Make space now for new business, great opportunities, and more creative ideas that make sense for who you are now.
If you put just a little effort into any of the above the result will be a lighter feeling about yourself and your life.
And, if you have any problems with letting go, let me recommend that you join us for weekly miracles through using Emotional Freedom Technique in our TAPshops. When you sign up for three months you will receive the audio recordings for all past sessions. You can join us by signing up at: http://arielagroup.com/pages/tapshopreg0309.html or by going to http://planetteleclass.com to register.
Freeing Yourself From Negative Energy Loops with EFT
Today in our weekly EFT TAPshop session we will discuss and workshop around using Emotional Freedom Technique to let go of the energy around old stories that no longer serve us.
Have you ever been in a situation where it seemed that you could not free yourself from a re-occurring loop or cycle of undesired situations or relationships? I have worked with clients who were caught in negative energy loops around:
- selling real estate – that just wouldn’t sell,
- attracting the same kinds of people and relationships into their lives – even though they wanted to break the pattern,
- coming down with every illness or “bug” that was circulating – even though they weren’t in physical contact with other people,
- being laid off from their job – over and over again,
- being involved in numerous automobile or other accidents with others - where they were the victims being run into by others,
- being stuck in a negative financial loop – and even when a growth spurt and positive money inflow occurred, it quickly flowed back out so that the person was again out of money, ETC.
- Think of re-occurring negative loops that you have experienced in your own life. Would you like to break out and be FREE of the loop? – Forever?
The problem often exists in your “story”. As long as you keep talking about your situation of non-success, being a victim, situations that hurt you, then you are perpetuating the energy around the situation. You can easily release much of the energy stored around a cycle or loop by disciplining yourself to change or stop telling your “story” about it.
Sometimes, however, there is emotional charge around the issue. You have been hurt. You are still suffering and cannot deny that. So, in this situation you need a tool that will neutralize or take away the pain so that you can remove yourself from the attachment to the story. Your memory will not change. The hurt associated with it and the positive opportunities around it WILL change. I use several tools to clear emotional charge, and two of my favorites are Neuro Emotional Technique (N.E.T.) and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). You can easily learn EFT for yourself and be free of emotional loops for the rest of your life!
If you are interested in letting go of negative loops in your life, let me recommend that you join us for weekly miracles through using Emotional Freedom Technique in our TAPshops. When you sign up for three months you will receive the audio recordings for all past sessions. You can join us by signing up at: http://arielagroup.com/pages/tapshopreg0309.html or by going to http://planetteleclass.com to register.
EFT TAPshop Session focuses on Clarity!
Many people have seen the video or read “The Secret” in the past few years. The information about how to manifest using the Law of Attraction is definitely a key to creating the life we each wish to have. Now there are many teachings about the Law of Attraction (LOA) and books on how to manifest are very popular. Still, there are many of us who feel frustrated at times because our main desires do not show up immediately in our lives.
In our first weekly TAPshop session my friend and colleague, Sue Bridgeford, and I focused on the issue of CLARITY as we explained its importance in the manifestation process. Without clear focus or clarity about exactly what we desire, the fogginess confuses our own subconscious and all outside powers that are attempting to aid us in our manifesting process. And, in looking at the concept of clarity, many other issues are also involved.
We created a set-up phrase of “Even though I am unsure of how to be clear, and I’d really like to be clear all of the time, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” It evolved, as all set-up phrases do, and we noticed that the following issues came up from participants that were related:
- fear of commitment
- unworthiness
- fear of getting what we want
- fear for our safety if we get what we want
- fear of success – in various areas of our life
- fear of failure
- fear of others’ reactions to us being clear about what we want – and getting it!
- fear of the change in our life or lifestyle that might occur if we get what we want
- fear that if we get what we want we might lose it
- fear of the hassle involved with getting what we want (lots of money = taxes to pay, etc.)
So, if you would like to know more about how we utilized Emotional Freedom Technique in the workshop, there is a very good audio recording made of our TAPshop session and all who register for the on-going weekly EFT workshops will have access to this and all of the other recordings. It was a very good session! And, if you wish to use EFT on your own clarity, I would suggest that you gauge and work on any personal charge you might have on the bulleted items above as part of the process.
For more information, or to register you may go to: http://arielagroup.com/pages/tapshopreg0309.html, or to read more about the EFT programs that I offer you may go to: http://www.planetteleclass.com or http://www.eftpronetwork.com/content/anne-i-merkel-phd .
EFT Clears MORE than Just the Focus Issue!
Recently I used Emotional Freedom Technique to clear performance anxiety around a musical event where I had many flute solos. It worked wonderfully and I truly enjoyed the rest of the performances – and I’m sure the audience appreciated the good job that I did, too!! 
As a side result I realize that in clearing my fears around being criticized and judged I have also cleared those same issues related to writing. I have been struggling with writer’s block lately as I re-write my large website and create marketing letters and pages for my new training programs. I felt like I was wading in molasses for weeks as my deadlines came and went. Now I can just sit down and write! And, I didn’t even work on writing per se in the two short 5-10 minute EFT sessions that I facilitated for myself.
So, if you aren’t using Emotional Freedom Technique yet, and would like to learn how to be good at it and clear your issues each week with a group of like-minded others, you can check out the weekly TAPshops that start next Tuesday, March 10. Go to: http://is.gd/lxve.
Balanced Leadership
During my long career in Corporate America I often worked with female executives or mid managers on their way up. Because women in my generation had few executive women role models we often erroneously patterned our behavior after our male counterparts. There is nothing more disgusting than a female executive using masculine approaches to leadership and management. I know this from experience – I was a royal BITCH when I managed seventeen employees at the tender age of twenty-four. The job got done – WELL – but the people were not very happy with me. Still, twenty-plus years later some of my old employees are still running the institute that I created back then, so I must have done something right!
Balance is a key to all leadership and management – whether one is male or female. We all have both the YIN and YANG energies and need to learn to balance the feminine and masculine tendencies in ourselves. When we achieve good balance, where we can be strong, courageous, clear, and still compassionate, loving, and tender, THEN we will really be able to achieve as we also nurture and support others around us to grow. Employee retention will soar as quality and productivity improves, and the people will all be happier as a full-WIN situation is created.
When I was younger I was frustrated with the fact that I am an abstract thinker. I am an artist and an analytical mental-driven literal thinker. It used to be difficult to make decisions because I could always see both sides of an issue. I was caught up in a “black and white” world, and yet, I saw the full spectrum of colors in the rainbow. Situational Leadership and true balance in leader practices teaches one to be able to see and understand the full spectrum.
After many years directing corporate training and development I still have a love for business and helping leaders therein to find their own inner balance through conscious living practices. With balance comes more peace, love, and joy – as well as leadership and bottom-line success!!
To learn more go to: http://www.LeaderSupportCoach.com or http://www.ConsciousLivingEzine.com .
Peace Within
When I was a little girl, whenever I was given the opportunity to make a wish I would wish for Peace on Earth. Yes, I was a bit different back then too! It took many years for me to realize that the best way to create peace on the exterior is to first create peace within.
I have a warrior nature even though I tend toward being an introvert. My Saggitarian moon is very good at throwing thunderbolts when called for, and I used to think that the way to creating the best life for myself was through fighting for it. The warrior nature is a noble one – especially when used appropriately. It has taken many years to learn how to use this inner strong YANG (masculine) energy to create things with love, compassion, tenderness. I am finally glad to be in a female body and am getting better at balancing the YIN with YANG.
When I experienced the end of my old life and encountered the Dark Night of my Soul, I spent several years in emotional turmoil. I found it very hard to let go of my old life, my relationships, my habits, my community, my dream house, my clients, my artificial reality. When I finally woke up and realized that the old “story” and my nostalgia for it were holding me back I made a daily routine of focusing on the feelings of PEACE of mind, LOVE, JOY. It didn’t take too long until my life became a totally different and more authentic reflection of my true SELF, and it is now FULL of peace, love, joy,… and abundance!!
I enjoy helping others to take less time than I did in the process of finding inner peace through balance and conscious living. In fact, I am rolling out a program on March 18 entitled Abundant Living and Loving: Conscious Life Transformation Through Achieving Freedom from Blocked Emotions and Detrimental Self-Talk. It will be FUN to help others to rise to a higher level in their lives and careers!! This is where my passion is now and I KNOW that by creating the peace within we can also achieve it on the outside!!
Read more at http://www.ConsciousLivingEzine.com .